A letter to my LGBTQIA+ friends and acquaintances

Hello friend, This letter has been in my heart for some time now. I have always felt disappointed by the way I have failed to show up for you as an ally in a world where your sexuality (sexual orientation and/or gender identity) is a literal crime. I am changing that. The first aim of…

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12 lessons from Aunty Ayado that helped me thrive while in Jo’burg

Today is the special birthday of a very special woman in my life! Without her I would not miss Johannesburg as much as I do. In celebration, I would like to share some precious life lessons she taught me. These lessons were mostly learnt from watching the way she lived her life as well as…

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Realising my parents are just people

This post is a reflection prompted by Foster’s question on this For Harriet Instagram post: How old were you when you realised your parents were just people? I can’t point to a specific time. I think it was more of a slow realisation, accelerated by adulting. Pre-adulting, my parents were demi-gods in my eyes. They were always right. They…

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9 lessons from homeschooling my sisters

The day was Sunday the 15th of March; while I dropped my sister, the boarder, back to school the president announced the closure of all schools on account of COVID-19. We picked her books and returned home shooketh to the core. This is also the day I had planned to leave for South Africa to…

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Stop Cheating on Us!

The irony of it all! I wonder why in the 21st Century, our men, our black glorious rising and risen men still cheat on their women, still have fragile egos,still believe the ways to their hearts are their stomachs, still believe they have no control over their sight, still believe in that disgusting word ’emasculation’, still…

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Cold face towel, calpol and mummy.

I remember this one night when I was feverish… Mummy took a bowl with cold water, dunked a face towel in it, wringed it and placed it on my heating up body… She then gave me some calpol and the fever left (or so remembers my mind)… And so when I had fever today I…

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Purple Hibiscus Aunts

Ah! Purple Hibiscus aunts, you mamas are my unsung sheroes and for your sake I will break down purple Hibiscus aunt because I don’t think you even notice that you are it. Purple Hibiscus aunt, a term I came up with after I read Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda. Now, moment of silence to celebrate and…

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Crushing ice

Today I remembered this amazing evening: My girlfriends and I finally decide to chat away the evening at good ol’ Patapata. So here we are sipping on our deception drinks. Okay pause, I need to explain deception drinks:  ‘Deception drinks’ a term coined by me after Wonsun brought to our attention the use of ice…

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