The Life-Death-life Cycle

I was chasing this tune for ages!!!I am so glad I found it…
This song is Maboneng on a Saturday afternoon…
Me practising amazing levels of self-control to not eat in the Ethiopian restaurant only to buy pizza at Chalk board; lock myself in my 5th floor room then think about death…get mad at it, get scared of it, imagine what is on the other side, shudder…then dine myself out at Blackanese restaurant.
I was listening to the same tune on my way to my friend’s father’s burial and I could not help  but reflect on my growth as far as death is concerned. This time round I had translators so I understood the song better and found it very interesting that it reflected my mindset on death then.In the song the singer mourns Nomvula’s leaving and is asking everyone where his Nomvula is so as to bring her back. In the same way I wanted death to bring everyone back, to stop taking people especially those I loved. However, yesterday listening to that song I realised that sometimes you need to let Nomvula go…I need to let death be. Moreover, I need to find my role in ushering death, in the same way I have learnt to embrace and nurture life.

Yesterday, we painfully lay our friend’s father to rest and in another part of the world her family and friends laid my former classmate and housemate to rest…I know see death as a necessary part of the  life-death-life cycle (That Wild Woman book is everything). I am learning and fearing less… onward.