Because life needs frosting…

I am a strong believer in joy…How do I know these?I am always admiring the joyful. You know, those people who continually give thanks even in the hardest of circumstances. Those people who just keep getting back up no matter what the world throws at them…They are those few people who make bricks of stones and lemonade of lemons. Those whose cups are neither half empty or half full but ever flowing…
Well, I am a joyful person too. I say this because most of my friends think so but truly finding inner joy has not been easy. It is easy to smile and share energy when the circumstances allow:when the food is good and the world seems to be changing in a positive way and you are loving your subjects and you have loving parents and sisters and cousins who appreciate you…
But not so much when the circumstances are different. Not so much when the microaggressions of patriarchy are no longer micro, not so much when you can’t understand why lives have different values, not so much when your country is a hot bed of corruption, not so much when you feel like those who matter are not as close as you would want them to be, not so much when change is painful, not so much when everything about the world depresses you…but I guess joy becomes joy when the circumstances are as such. Joy becomes joy when you decide to be the frosting. Joy becomes joy when you decide to choose your focus.
I am not happy, actually I am very sad at a lot of things but I am joyful because “with all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, the world is still a beautiful place. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.” I am joyful because I fear if I cave in I will cease to live and start to exist. I am joyful because I do not like the other options up for offer like bitterness.
So the world is hurting in a whole lot of places…

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But the healing begins with me…and sometimes the healing is taking time off to have a lovely weekend with someone you love, sometimes it is just indulging in the mundane, sometimes it is cinnabon…whatever it is, I choose joy…because in joy, I can still believe, hope and love

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